Be an Original, Not a Copycat!
You can dare to be happy with who you are right now and accept yourself, faults and all. A lot of us don’t realize it, but the root cause of many social, physical, and emotional problems is simply the fact that people don’t like themselves. They are uncomfortable with how they look, how they talk, or how they act. They don’t like their personality. They are always comparing themselves with other people, wishing they were something different. “If I just had his personality….” “If I looked like she looks…” “If my thighs just weren’t so big…” “If I had less here and more somewhere else, then I’d be happy.”
No, you can be happy with who God made you to be, and quit wishing you were something different. If God had wanted you to look like a fashion model, a movie star, a famous athlete, or anyone else. He would have made you look like them. If God had wanted you to have a different personality, He would have given you that personality. Don’t compare yourself to other people; learn to be happy with who God made you to be.
Many people are insecure about who they are, so they constantly try to gain the approval of everybody around them so they can feel better about themselves. They end up living to please other people, trying to fit into their molds so they can be accepted. They act one way for their boss, another way for their spouse, and another way for their friends. They live a life of pretense, wearing various masks, and hoping to please everybody. In essence, they are not being true to anyone, especially themselves.
But if you are going to enjoy your life to the full, you must learn to be confident as the individual God made you to be. Understand this: You were not created to imitate somebody else. You were created to be you. When you go around copying and trying to be like somebody else, not only does it demean you, it steals your diversity, your creativity, and your uniqueness.
God doesn’t want a bunch of clones. He likes varieties, and you should not let people pressure you or make you feel badly about yourself because you don’t fit their image of who you should be. Some people spend three-fourths of their time trying to be somebody else. How foolish!
Be an original, not a copycat. Dare to be different; be secure in who God made you to be and then go out and be the best you that you can be. You don’t have to look or act like anyone else. God has given us all different gifts, talents, and personalities on purpose. You don’t really need anybody else’s approval to do what you know God wants you to do.
Certainly, you should always be open to wise counsel. I’m not suggesting that you be foolish or rebellious. Nor am I suggesting that you move from liberty to license in your spiritual life. We never have permission to live an ungodly life. But we do have God’s blessing to be confident, not letting outside pressures mold us into something or someone we’re not. If you want to wear your hair a certain way, that’s your prerogative. You don’t have to check with all your friends to make sure it’s okay. Be secure in who you are. If you want join the choir at church or start a new business or buy a new car or home, you don’t need anyone’s approval before you can do what you know God wants you to do. Your attitude should be: I am confident in who I am. I’m not going to go around pretending, wishing I was something else, trying to fit into everybody’s mold. I am free to run my own race.
It’s okay to be you! God made you the way you are on purpose. He went to great lengths to make sure that each of us is an original. We should not feel badly because our personality, tastes, hobbies, or even spiritual tendencies are not the same as another person’s. Some people are outgoing and energetic. Other people are more timid and laid back. Some people like to wear suits and ties. Other people are comfortable wearing blue jeans. Some people close their eyes and lift their hands when they worship God. Others worship God in a more subdues manner. And guess what? God likes it all! God loves variety.
Don’t think that you have to fit into somebody else’s mold and, similarly, don’t be upset when other people don’t fit into your molds. Just be the person God made you to be.
Interestingly, Lanthy and I are totally opposite in many respects. I’m very routine person, extremely structures and organized. I get up at the same time every day. I do the same things, maintain the same schedule from week to week. I go to the same restaurants and eat the same food. In most cases, I don’t even have to look at the menu, because I know I’m going to order the same things I always order. Lanthy, on the other hand, does not like routine. She likes variety. She’s outgoing, energetic, fun, adventurous, and daring. There’s no telling what she’s going to do next! My prayer is always, “Please, God, just don’t let her get arrested!”
And here is the wonderful part: God made her that way! One of the reasons why we have a good relationship is because I don’t spend my time trying to change her, and she doesn’t make me feel badly about being myself, or nag me because I’m not just like her. We’re learned to appreciate our differences. We’ve learned to enjoy the person God made each of us to be.
In the process, we balance each other. I’m structured and routine; she’s fun and adventurous. Without her, my life would be boring; without me, she would be in prison! (Just kidding.)