Get Over It (Part II)
Is there something you need to get over today? Do you need to get over a friend’s betrayal? Do you need to get over a business deal that didn’t work out? Do you need to get over a childhood that wasn’t so great? Unless you get over, they will keep you from the fullness God has in store.
The key to earn the double is to not get bitter. Don’t have a chip on your shoulder or feel you are owed something. Don’t make excuses or live in a sour mood. Many people blame their pasts for their bitterness or lack of success. They blame the way they were raised, what they weren’t given, or who wasn’t around.
God is not surprised by what was lacking or hurtful in your past. Don’t use those things as an excuse to go through life feeling shortchanged. Move forward. This is a new day. God knew who your parents would be. He knew what kind of environment you would be raised in. I’m not making light of hardships and hurts. Some people grew up in very unfair and difficult situations. They didn’t get the love, the approval, or the support they should have had. But I don’t believe in giving people the right to feel sorry for themselves.
That will keep you from the amazing future God has in store. I t may not have been fair, but if you have the right attitude, then instead of being a setback it’ll be a set up for God to do something great in your life.
I know people in their fifties who still talk about what Momma didn’t give them. Have you ever thought that maybe Momma didn’t have it to give? Maybe your father did the best he could with what he had. Sometimes we rely too much on people when we should be relying on God.
Psalm 27:10 says, “God adopts us as His very own children.” Your mother or father may not have given you what you needed, but if you start looking to God, He will make up for everything you lacked.
I have heard it said, “If you want someone to give you 100 percent, don’t look around. Look up. God is the only One who can give you everything you need.”
Some people were never taught to show love, to express approval. They had no role models for that. They pass down what they’ve experienced. If you look only to other people, you’ll be disappointed. They will let you down. And if you’re not careful, you’ll become bitter and resentful toward them. You may think, “You owe me. Why won’t you give it to me? What’s wrong with you?” But maybe God is teaching you to rely not on people but on Him. Let people off the hook. Quit trying to make another person be everything to you. No one has 100 percent. No one can meet all your needs, it doesn’t matter how good that person may be, how loving or how kind. At some point, that person will fall short.
Look up to your Heavenly Father instead and say, “God I know You will give me everything I need.” When you open the door to self-pity, to blame, all kinds of negative thoughts will flood your mind. The enemy will be right there to add to it and tell you, “You’re right. They did you wrong. You got cheated. You should have a chip on your shoulder. You need to go straighten them out.” Don’t! I repeat this phrase “Get Over It!” Why don’t you let those who hurt you off the hook? Quit expecting them to be perfect. Look to God to give you what people cannot give you. Otherwise you will get bitter, and when you’re bitter it poisons every area of your life.
Hebrews 12 talks about a root of bitterness. I’ve learned that a bitter root will always produce bitter fruit. Bitter people don’t have good relationships. They’re too negative. When we’re bitter it affects our attitudes. We see everything through a critical lens. Nothing is ever good enough. Bitter people can smile on the outside, but on the inside they’re thinking, “I don’t like you. Why did you show up here?”
Bitterness taints everything about them. It infects everything you do and follows you everywhere you go. There was a grandfather whose grandkids decided to play a trick on him during his regular afternoon nap. They took some potent awful-smelling cheese and rubbed it on his moustache while he was sound asleep on the couch. Within a couple of minutes, his nose began to twitch. He quickly woke up and said, “Boy, it stinks in this room.” He left the family room to escape the smell, but it was in the kitchen, too. He took a sniff here and a sniff there. “It stinks in this room, too,” he said. Frustrated, he went outside to get a breath of fresh air. He took a deep breath, shook his head, and said, “Man, the whole world stinks!”
If the whole world ever stinks for you, might I suggest you look inside? Maybe there are some adjustments you need to make. Bitterness will follow you everywhere you go. A man I know was bent out of shape because he felt his former employer mistreated him. Overall, this boss had been very good to him, loving and kind, but the man felt a few bad things had been done to him here and there. He could have overlooked it and focused on the good. But he made the mistake of letting the bitterness take root. More than twenty years later, the bitter fruit from those roots of resentment is obvious. He’s negative. Always finding fault, he has a chip on his shoulder.
When we hold on to things we should let go, refusing to forgive, remembering the worst, we only poison our own lives. God is saying, “Get over it.”
Life is flying by. You don’t have time to waste another minute being negative, offended, or bitter. If someone did you wrong, get over it and God will make it up to you. If you had a bad break that left you at a disadvantage, get over it. God is still on the Throne.
Are you making excuses for why you can’t succeed or be happy? Do you feel you can’t forgive someone who hurt you badly? You are responsible for your happiness. You need to forgive those hurt you, not for their sakes but for your own. Forgive so you can be free.
“I’ve had some rough times. I’ve had a bad break in my business.”
Get over it. You wouldn’t be alive unless God had another victory in front of you. Nothing in life has happened to you. It’s happened for you. Every disappointment. Every wrong. Even every closed door has helped make you into who you are. You are not defined by your past. You are prepared by your past. You may have encountered some great obstacles, but only because God has a great future in front of you. If you will get over what you think is a disadvantage, God will take what looks like a liability and turn it into an asset. It may not something physical, but maybe with your childhood or past. Someone did you wrong, you made a mistake or something bad happened to you.
“If only I hadn’t had that accident, then I could fulfill my dreams.”
“If only I hadn’t been through that divorce.”
“If only I hadn’t gotten laid off.”
Those “if only” thoughts can keep you from fulfilling your destiny.
David could have said, “If only Goliath wasn’t so big.”
Gideon could have said, “If only I came from a better family.”
Joseph could have said, “If only my brothers hadn’t sold me into slavery.”
Everyone has challenges, but you can’t “if only” your way through life. What happened to you may seem like a disadvantage in your eyes, but it is not a disadvantage in God’s eyes. It’s not keeping you from your destiny. It will thrust you into your destiny. Now you have to do your part and get over anything that’s holding you back. Get over what anyone said about you. No one else can determine your destiny. God does that.
Get over those things that haven’t worked out as you’d hoped. Get over the mistakes you’ve made. Get over the disappointments. Something may have surprised you and set you back, but it’s not a surprise to God. He’s already arranged the comeback.
Your attitude should be “Nobody owes me anything. I am going through life with a chip in my shoulder. I’m letting go of those things that didn’t work out. I’m forgiving those who did me wrong. I’m pulling up the roots of bitterness, and I’m moving forward into the amazing future God has in store.
If you learn this simple principle to get over it, then I believe and declare no disappointment, no bad break, no injustice, will keep you from your destiny. God will take what’s meant for your harm and use it to your advantage.
Like Job, you will not only come out of the difficult times, you will also come out better, stronger, and increased, with twice the joy, twice the peace, and twice the victory.
September 11, 2015