Don’t Become Trapped in the Past
The Bible says, “The mercies of God are fresh and new every single day.” God knows we’re going to make mistakes. God know we are not perfect, so He provides fresh, new mercy and grace every day. God doesn’t condone our sins; He doesn’t wink at our wrongdoing. But God doesn’t automatically condemn us either. The Bible says, “The Lord…is patient toward you, not wishing for any perish but for all to come to repentance.” (2 Peter 3:9)
If you’re going to avoid getting trapped in your past, you must learn to forgive yourself. You must be willing to accept God’s mercy. You can’t be so critical of yourself that you won’t receive what God has to offer.
Maybe you made some bad choices, and now you are trying to correct the things you’ve done wrong. That’s noble, and to the extent that you can make restitution for any hurt you have inflicted on others, you should attempt to do so. But you must understand, you can’t always repair every broken piece of your life or somebody else’s life; you can’t fix every mistake or clean up every mess that you have made. You may be trying to pay a debt that you cannot possibly pay. Perhaps it is time that you simply receive God’s mercy and forgiveness so you can move on with your life.
God wants to do more than you can ask or think as well. He wants to restore good things to you in abundance. If you will focus on the right things, God will take your most horrendous battlefield and turn it into your greatest blessing fields.
I’m not saying to take the easy way and just bail out of a marriage or some other difficult situation. Friend of mine went through hell on earth. If you knew the circumstances surrounding the divorce he experienced, you would understand the he didn’t take the easy road. But neither did he allow himself to be trapped in the past. Let go of your past disappointments, failures, and sins. God wants to do a new thing. He wants to restore to you in abundance everything the enemy has stolen from you. Quit dwelling on those disappointments, mourning over something you’ve lost, and start believing God for a fantastic future!
I’m often asked to pray for individuals who are believing for a relationship to be restored. Some are praying for their marriage to be restored; others are asking God to heal a business situation or a rift between coworkers. I encourage people to persevere, to continue praying, and believing for good things to happen. But we must also understand that God will not change another person’s will. He has given every human being free will to choose which way he or she will go, whether to do right or wrong. Sometimes, no matter how hard we pray or how long we stand in faith, things don’t turn out as we hope.
You may be heartbroken over a failed relationship or a bankrupt business, but I challenge you to not stay heartbroken. Don’t carry around all that hurt and pain year after year. Don’t let rejection fester inside you, poisoning your future. Let it go. God has something new in store for you.
When God allows one door to close, He will open another door for you, revealing something bigger and better. The Bible says that God will take the evil that the enemy brings into our lives, and if we’ll keep the right attitude, He’ll turn it around and use it for our good. (Genesis 50:20) God wants to take your scars and turn them into stars. He wants to take those disappointments and turn them into reappointments. But understand, whether you will experience all those good things in your future depends to a large extent on your willingness to let go of the past.
You can’t put a question mark where God has put a period. Avoid the tendency to dwell on what you could have done, which college you should have attended, which career you should have pursued, or that person you wish you would have married. Quit living in a negative frame of mind, stewing about something that is over and done. Focus on what you can change, rather than what you cannot. Shake yourself out of that “should have, could have, would have” mentality and move on. Don’t let the regrets of yesterday destroy the hopes and dreams of tomorrow.
Surely, we all can look back and see things in our lives that we wish we would have done differently. But the Bible says, “Make the most od each day.” (Matthew 6:33) Yesterday is gone; tomorrow may not come. You must live for today. Start right where you are. You can’t do anything about what’s gone, but you can do a great deal about what remains.
You may have made some poor choices that have caused you awful heartache and pain. Perhaps you feel that you have blown it, that your life is in shambles and beyond repair. You may feel disqualified from God’s best, convinced that you must settle for second best the rest of your life because of the poor decisions you made. But friend, God desires your restoration even more than you do! If you’ll let go of the past and start living each day with faith and expectancy, God will restore everything that the enemy has stolen from you.